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February 21, 2020

How to Grow Your Relationship with God with an Overloaded Schedule

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I want to give a little backstory of my spiritual journey and relationship with God. Because at this point in my life, it looks a whole lot different than it used to.

I am 30 years old. I was raised in a Christian family, going to church every Sunday. I got saved at a young age and knew all the right things to do and say.

But I didn’t know God.

I didn’t know Him.

Nevermind have a relationship with Him.

I didn’t know what it was like to have that relationship with God and have Him transform my heart. And it showed. I made choices that did not reflect that Jesus was in my heart. I didn’t KNOW what it meant. I was angry and impatient. I was selfish and controlling. I was trying to control my life, but with little success. I am human and I fail, so how can that be a recipe for victory?

It wasn’t until I was in college where I would say I dedicated my life to Christ. But I still couldn’t say I had a relationship with Christ. And a lot of those worldly personality traits (selfish, impatient, flighty, to name a few) were still so evident. The change in my heart happened for me about five years ago when my second child was very young. I began to realize what a true relationship with the Lord was.

God began to do a work in my heart, something that I reflect back on often, and something I am so incredibly thankful for. I am glad He grabbed ahold of me and drew me closer. For the first time in my life I read through my whole Bible (only took me a couple years…) and created that intimate time that I spent with Him every morning, just pouring over the Word and Bible studies and connecting with Him in my prayer journal.

It did not happen overnight.

It was a long, slow, intentional process.

I share all this to hopefully show you that everyone starts somewhere, just like my journey with fitness I shared last month.

So why didn’t I start earlier? I mean I grew up with all the right factors to lead me to show me the way.

Well, it honestly comes down to me not realizing the importance and owning it for myself. Pursuing a relationship with God takes being intentional and living with a purpose.

I didn’t know what to do or where to start.

My son was less than a year old and we were visiting my in-laws in Pennsylvania that summer. I was watching my two year old and baby play in inflatable pools and have such a great time with their cousins. I saw the beautiful spirit of my sister-in-law and the unending love of my mother-in-law. And something in me clicked. The weight of my role as a mom. I don’t know why it didn’t dawn on me sooner, but I started thinking of my kids growing up. I want them to know and love Jesus. It is no one but MY responsibility to teach them!

So then I panic. I started thinking about how huge of a job that is. How much weighs on ME. I started thinking of as my kids grew up and how they will ask me questions, and what if I didn’t have the answer? I wanted to be able to know what I believed, enough that I could teach them.

So, I began.

I opened my Bible. The same Bible my parents had gifted me when I was a teenager. And I read.

I started in Genesis. I began waking up before the kids every morning (because when you have two kids two and under, quiet time during the day is nonexistent!). I made a choice that I was going to learn, and make it a priority in my life.

If I want to teach them what they believe, how can I speak confidently when I haven’t read my entire instruction manual? How can I show them how to have a relationship with God when I don’t even have one myself?

Find Your Why

If I don’t show my kids it is a priority, they won’t make it one. I knew that I wanted them to know Jesus, but I knew I needed to know Him more first. My why is for me, for my kids.

But then my why became more than that. The more I read my Bible, the more I sought for that time with Jesus, the more I desired it. My soul wasn’t quenched unless I was filled with the Word.

Where Do You Start?

For me, I just started reading. I opened the Bible to Genesis and began. But like I said before, that isn’t the only way. There are Bible reading plans that help divvy up your reading so you don’t get stuck in, let’s say, Leviticus (the whole Bible is profitable but that was a LONG month). Bible studies are also very helpful and can provide some really wonderful insight and feedback on all areas and subjects. I listed some other resources at the bottom of this post too!

Decide When

So you have decided to start reading your Bible and that it is a priority in your life. Great! So, the next step would be to decide WHEN.

I am BUSY. I am a single mom of three kids, six and under. I don’t have time.

I make time.

When they were younger, I chose to wake up early in the morning, (hopefully) well before they would wake. The Bible says many times to seek FIRST the Kingdom of God, so for me that means starting my day with Him. My attitude and heart feels content in Him by filling my mind with His mind before anything else. But that is not to say that reading your Bible at any other point in the day isn’t good! And it may seem like it is too hard or that you have so many other things to do. But. Let me tell you- this is the MOST important thing. And if you prioritize God in your life, everything else becomes much easier. Promise.

If you don’t have a plan, then you plan to fail. Write it into your schedule. Make a plan and make it a priority because it is important!

Keep waking up early. Make it a habit. Schedule your coffee, set 14 alarms, do anything to help set you up for success. Don’t press snooze. Just do it. Jump out of bed and into the Word.

Keep A Journal

This obviously isn’t mandatory, but it has been huge in my spiritual walk. Writing out my thoughts and prayers help them become clearer and is so healthy for me. Basically I just write down my prayers and can look back and see where my heart was and how God was working. I have seen such a pattern of anxiety on my part with different things in my life, and most of the time the thing I was anxious about never happened, or God provided in a way that was bigger than any fear I had. Observing God’s faithfulness has been a huge way to solidify my faith!

I prefer larger ruled and spiral bound notebooks. And pretty ones too. I mean, why not! These books become so special to me and I love reflecting back on them. So find something that fits your taste. It’s your special time, make it personal!

How Will You Benefit?

I talked at the beginning of the post of finding your why, but I want to tell you before you even start how this is going to change your life. Because it WILL.

  • You will gain a deep trust in Jesus.
  • You will feel peace and hope.
  • You will gain so much perspective and instruction on how to live your life.
  • You will gain a partner to fight your battles for you and to take on your biggest burdens.
  • You will begin to desire that time with Him and depend on the wisdom and guidance gleaned from the Word.
  • You will get that relationship with God that you hear about. It becomes personal, not just a thing you should be doing.

And that is just to name a few. There are more benefits than I can even list that come from reading and studying the Bible. You will see for yourself!

So tell me, what is stopping you? Take the first step. Make a plan. Watch your life change! Begin developing a relationship with God TODAY.

Other ideas for daily reading:

First 5

Our Daily Bread

Embraced

Some of my favorite Bible studies:

Finding I Am

Job

The Armor of God

No Other Gods

What Love Is

I also lead a private online Bible study with a great group of women if you’d like to join! Send me an email or message on any social platform and I will send you an invite. We are currently working through Trustworthy by Lysa TerKeurst and I am praying about our next study to begin next month.

I am also compiling a list of some of my favorite grief related and religious books, so keep an eye out for that!

Outfit linked here

Bible here (leather case custom made from a friend)

I grew up reading the King James Version (KJV), and currently read in the English Standard Version (ESV). (I don’t want to get into a conversation about Bible versions, just sharing what I use).

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  1. Krystie says

    February 22, 2020 at 7:22 pm

    I totally understand this. I was also saved at a young age, but my *real* (personal) relationship with God didn’t start till I was in my twenties. I was in an unhealthy marriage, about to get a divorce, and my whole world was turning upside down and completely out of my control. I had no choice but to trust Him. I had to turn to Him for guidance. I found I had never felt so close to Him. You know that saying “God won’t give you more than you can handle”? I don’t believe it. We need to be in a place sometimes that we absolutely cannot handle by ourselves so we hand Him the reigns. My relationship with Him has had its ups and downs since then, but whenever I start to stray it’s those moments that I don’t know what is going to happen next that I find myself turning back to Him.

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    • Mary Ellen says

      October 20, 2020 at 12:46 pm

      Amen

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I am Nicole Fergesen, mama to four, new Iowan and part time New Hampshire girl. I believe in Jesus, live on coffee, and love functional fashion. I also dabble in home design and relentlessly find beauty in everything. Wife to Dustin, widow of Marcus, blending a family and finding grace in the journey.

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The biggest adventure you can take is to live the The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.
-Oprah

Reminiscing about our honeymoon 🥰 this was our first hike up Piestewa Peak in Phoenix, AZ. I’m ready for more adventure, @dfergesen! 

#adventure #travel #liveyourbestlife #makelifehappen #positivevibes #dream #dreambig #honeymoon #chapter2 #travelmore #loveafterloss #hike #nature #getoutside
January 15. Miss you every single day. Today even January 15. Miss you every single day. Today even more, remembering the pain of that day, that moment. Wrapped in my dad’s arms, hearing those impossible words. 

I miss how he would make you feel like you were the most special person in the world. Strangers would feel his instant connection. His attitude, his view on life, always positive and exuberant. He loved me fiercely. His children were his world. It’s so sad to me they won’t get the opportunity to grow up knowing him.

Words fail me today. Spending the day playing hookie and enjoying family time. Remembering this incredible man who we love so much. 

Love you forever, Marcus. 

#missyou #ichoosejoy #haveanamazingday #heaveniversary #youngwidow #iloveyou #deathday #rememberingday #heavengainedanangel #widow #brokenheart
When life gives you lemons (ahem... clementines), When life gives you lemons (ahem... clementines), how do you react? 
How do you keep going when life isn’t what you wanted or expected? It’s keeping hope that it will all work out for good. It’s trusting that God has a plan beyond the one you had. Bad situations don’t mean a bad life. 

When things aren’t going my way, I often think:
“What am I learning here?” 
“Is this something I can control or change?”
“How can good come from this?”

While not every situation has a clear or positive answer, the goal is to not get stuck in our head and the downward spiral that will destroy us. The truth is, most situations we have very little control over. BUT. We can control how we respond. And that might mean putting someone else’s needs above our own. It might mean choosing their happiness over our own. Or even though the situation seems all negative, forcing yourself to find a positive. Teaching ourselves that emotions are important, but it’s important to not let them rule us. 

I’m reading Marcus’ book to the kids this week, and this quote resonated so much with me: “I believe there is a purpose in every circumstance of life, and it is my responsibility to love that purpose and engage with it- to participate in it rather than resist it- no matter what it may be. In fact, that purpose is often simply not clear in the short term, which is another way that faith holds life together. Faith understands that eventually, in time or after some time, the purpose will be clear.”

I tell my kids all the time that while we lost someone so special us, we gained understanding. Now we can help others we wouldn’t have been able to empathize with nearly as much. We can be sad and still do good. 

True perspective. 

Love that we are still learning from that man. 

So seize the day and make some freaking lemonade! 

I posted our yearly recap on the blog a few days ago. I love looking back on our year and seeing all we did, especially this whirlwind of a year!

Top is from @elegantees- go give them a follow and support and incredible mission! Everything else linked here: http://liketk.it/35RqI #liketkit @liketoknow.it #makelemonade #keepyoureyesup #positivevibes #beablessing #liftothersup
“Your dad would be so proud of you.” Thank yo “Your dad would be so proud of you.”

Thank you to the parents who teach empathy and kindness. To connect even when they don’t completely understand or relate. Our kids wanted to share about their daddy in heaven to their classmates this week, so they chose to bring their daddy books in. (It is SO good and healthy for them to talk and share about their daddy!) Today Scarlett shared her favorite pictures and stories with her friends, and one friend uttered those words. I wish I could have had Scarlett’s expression on video when describing the kind words her friend said. She was straight up beaming, and what a beautiful thing for another 7 year old to build her up. Scarlett was vulnerable to be sharing a part of her that hurts but is so special, and to have it be received with kindness is the greatest gift that could have been given to her. 

This girl has fought her way through some really hard places. She is learning how to use what she’s gone through and lost to help others. She will always wrestle with certain things, but there is one thing I am sure of:

He is proud. 

Keep raising great humans, friends. 

#raisinggoodhumans #positivevibes #raisingarrows #blessothers #beablessing #encouragement #liftothersup #childgrief #helpothers #makelemonade #igdaily #dailysmile
I don’t pretend to have it all figured out. Life I don’t pretend to have it all figured out. Life is complicated, hard, and the busyness of our current season makes it hard to process all the things. 
So I went back to therapy today. And it was awful. And wonderful. 
Awful because my painful wounds were exposed and poked and it resurfaced so much trauma. But it was also wonderful because the simple mention of some topics cued instant emotions, reminding me that they obviously need tending to. It allowed my words and emotions to flow freely, some of which I didn’t even realize were on my mind. A neutral sounding board and safe place to help process some really hard and complicated things. 

For a long time, grief and loss was all I thought or wrote about. And now that I’m remarried, I don’t want to give the illusion that all that pain and sadness disappeared. The truth is that time does heal, but the wounds will never go away. While grief isn’t always on the forefront of my mind, it is a part of who I am. I’m forever changed because of our loss. And certain dates and reminders are a jarring reminder of what we’ve lost. I’ve been mentally preparing myself for months for next week, and I’m still dreading it. 

The hard parts won’t last. These things become a part of who we are, and talking about them helps us to release the control they have over us. While it hurts at first, it helps us work through processing it all and eventually the pain will subside. 

Dustin and I are proactively going in a couple weeks too. Why not start our foundation off strong, especially considering the hard things we’ve encountered so far and now blending a family. Let’s normalize mental health and therapy. We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. Admitting you need help is a sign of strength, not weakness. 

#ichoosejoy #haveanamazingday #missyou #mentalhealthawareness #grief #griefjourney #remarriedwidow #ithurts #missyou #loveneverfades #youngwidow #griefrecovery #therapy #vulnerability #storytime #iloveyou
I never thought that I’d be so emotional about E I never thought that I’d be so emotional about Eloise, our youngest, going to school. She’s gone to part time school for the past couple of years, but we decided it would be better for her to be enrolled full time. Since we made the decision last month I’ve been all over the place! I mean, a full day with NO kids at home? Imagine all I could accomplish! Then I’d be immediately reminded of the fact that yes, I’d have no kids at home all day. A few months from now will mark 8 years as a stay at home mom. My whole existence for as long as I can remember has revolved around these little people under foot, and now they’re to the age where they are thriving more under the care of a teacher. I was so surprised at my emotions because as each child approached school age, it felt right and I embraced them at their stage of growth. (I’m not one of those “don’t grow up” people. Or am I now...). Now that they’re all in school, it’s just so weird. 
I am excited for a few hours a day to be truly productive instead of my attention always split with the demands of the kids. I’m excited to not wear all the hats at once for a minute, trying to maintain the house, teach the kids, work, help others.... And I know I will be more refreshed and engaged when they get home. But it’s still so hard!
Tell me I’m not the only one? 
So excuse me while I sob into my breakfast while also being so excited how clean my house is and how much I’ve accomplished before noon 😅

Photo by @lindseynicole_photo hair by @krystle__walker #alltheemotions #wedding #ighappy #emotional #happybutsad #growingpains #blendedfamily #blendedfamilylife #momlife #sisters #siblinglove #godanswersprayer #family #instagood #beautiful #happy #sad
A year filled with so much turmoil for most, and y A year filled with so much turmoil for most, and yet so much joy and excitement for us. So many unknowns and moments of fear and panic, and God delivered exactly what we needed at just the right time. Every time. It was such a gift to weather the storm that is 2020 with this incredible guy by my side. 
I love to reflect, especially at the end of the year. And this year was an adventure, to say the least! 

This year I:
Rang in the new year in Stowe with friends 
Took a trip to Cali
Trained for a marathon 
Met the governor 
Met a boy 
Got engaged
Sold two houses 
Moved across the country 
Organized a benefit race
Got married
Gained a daughter
Honeymooned in AZ & UT
Bought a home

We are excited to ring in the new year quietly with our family tonight. True to the rest of the year, we weren’t able to host the New Years party we were planning. But as always, it all works out the way it should. Early bedtime and more house organizing sounds just perfect ❤️

Just a reminder that God’s timing is greater than ours. 
He cares for us always. 
He knows the desires of our hearts. 

Hold on to those highs. Live and love intensely ✌🏼❤️

Here’s to a new year and more adventures ✨

Photo by @bekahlee33 
#newyear #2020 #reflections #highlights #highlightreel #igdaily #husbandandwife #ighappy #adventure #lifeisgood #happy #happynewyear #loveyou #
Now that we are officially settled into our new ho Now that we are officially settled into our new house in Iowa, I am dreaming of all the ways we can refresh and upgrade it, and master closets are high on that list. This closet will forever serve as my inspiration! And also reminiscing of warmer weather where I can wear these summer shoes again 😔
Check out the full post of the final result on the blog (ahem... three years later...) link in my profile! http://liketk.it/34TQV photo by @bekahlee33  #liketkit @liketoknow.it #closet #closetroom #whitecloset #dreamcloset #inspo #shoe #shoewall #designer #gucci #toryburch #jeffreycampbell #ninewest #summer #summershoe #sandals #warmerweather #vacationmode #inspiration #customcloset #reveal
“We celebrate at Christmas not only that Christ “We celebrate at Christmas not only that Christ was born, but that He lived.”
Christmas morning 🎄🎁(yesterday for us!). 
Only delayed 9 hours on our road trip due to unexpected whiteout conditions 🥶 nothing like waking up to a super white Christmas, even though we will end up in the northeast late tonight where it’s 60 degrees! Merry Christmas everyone! 

I linked the kids’ jammies on my @liketoknow.it- awesome after Christmas sales are starting! These are my favorites and last for years. Best quality and fit and made to last when the kids grow! Go follow me there, just search @nicolefergesen 🛍

#merrychristmas #christmas #christmas2020 #christmasmorning #heisthereasonfortheseason #family #igkids #cute #pajamas #roadtrip #christmasvacation #christmasmagic #christmastree #loveyou
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The biggest adventure you can take is to live the The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.
-Oprah

Reminiscing about our honeymoon 🥰 this was our first hike up Piestewa Peak in Phoenix, AZ. I’m ready for more adventure, @dfergesen! 

#adventure #travel #liveyourbestlife #makelifehappen #positivevibes #dream #dreambig #honeymoon #chapter2 #travelmore #loveafterloss #hike #nature #getoutside
January 15. Miss you every single day. Today even January 15. Miss you every single day. Today even more, remembering the pain of that day, that moment. Wrapped in my dad’s arms, hearing those impossible words. 

I miss how he would make you feel like you were the most special person in the world. Strangers would feel his instant connection. His attitude, his view on life, always positive and exuberant. He loved me fiercely. His children were his world. It’s so sad to me they won’t get the opportunity to grow up knowing him.

Words fail me today. Spending the day playing hookie and enjoying family time. Remembering this incredible man who we love so much. 

Love you forever, Marcus. 

#missyou #ichoosejoy #haveanamazingday #heaveniversary #youngwidow #iloveyou #deathday #rememberingday #heavengainedanangel #widow #brokenheart
When life gives you lemons (ahem... clementines), When life gives you lemons (ahem... clementines), how do you react? 
How do you keep going when life isn’t what you wanted or expected? It’s keeping hope that it will all work out for good. It’s trusting that God has a plan beyond the one you had. Bad situations don’t mean a bad life. 

When things aren’t going my way, I often think:
“What am I learning here?” 
“Is this something I can control or change?”
“How can good come from this?”

While not every situation has a clear or positive answer, the goal is to not get stuck in our head and the downward spiral that will destroy us. The truth is, most situations we have very little control over. BUT. We can control how we respond. And that might mean putting someone else’s needs above our own. It might mean choosing their happiness over our own. Or even though the situation seems all negative, forcing yourself to find a positive. Teaching ourselves that emotions are important, but it’s important to not let them rule us. 

I’m reading Marcus’ book to the kids this week, and this quote resonated so much with me: “I believe there is a purpose in every circumstance of life, and it is my responsibility to love that purpose and engage with it- to participate in it rather than resist it- no matter what it may be. In fact, that purpose is often simply not clear in the short term, which is another way that faith holds life together. Faith understands that eventually, in time or after some time, the purpose will be clear.”

I tell my kids all the time that while we lost someone so special us, we gained understanding. Now we can help others we wouldn’t have been able to empathize with nearly as much. We can be sad and still do good. 

True perspective. 

Love that we are still learning from that man. 

So seize the day and make some freaking lemonade! 

I posted our yearly recap on the blog a few days ago. I love looking back on our year and seeing all we did, especially this whirlwind of a year!

Top is from @elegantees- go give them a follow and support and incredible mission! Everything else linked here: http://liketk.it/35RqI #liketkit @liketoknow.it #makelemonade #keepyoureyesup #positivevibes #beablessing #liftothersup
“Your dad would be so proud of you.” Thank yo “Your dad would be so proud of you.”

Thank you to the parents who teach empathy and kindness. To connect even when they don’t completely understand or relate. Our kids wanted to share about their daddy in heaven to their classmates this week, so they chose to bring their daddy books in. (It is SO good and healthy for them to talk and share about their daddy!) Today Scarlett shared her favorite pictures and stories with her friends, and one friend uttered those words. I wish I could have had Scarlett’s expression on video when describing the kind words her friend said. She was straight up beaming, and what a beautiful thing for another 7 year old to build her up. Scarlett was vulnerable to be sharing a part of her that hurts but is so special, and to have it be received with kindness is the greatest gift that could have been given to her. 

This girl has fought her way through some really hard places. She is learning how to use what she’s gone through and lost to help others. She will always wrestle with certain things, but there is one thing I am sure of:

He is proud. 

Keep raising great humans, friends. 

#raisinggoodhumans #positivevibes #raisingarrows #blessothers #beablessing #encouragement #liftothersup #childgrief #helpothers #makelemonade #igdaily #dailysmile
I don’t pretend to have it all figured out. Life I don’t pretend to have it all figured out. Life is complicated, hard, and the busyness of our current season makes it hard to process all the things. 
So I went back to therapy today. And it was awful. And wonderful. 
Awful because my painful wounds were exposed and poked and it resurfaced so much trauma. But it was also wonderful because the simple mention of some topics cued instant emotions, reminding me that they obviously need tending to. It allowed my words and emotions to flow freely, some of which I didn’t even realize were on my mind. A neutral sounding board and safe place to help process some really hard and complicated things. 

For a long time, grief and loss was all I thought or wrote about. And now that I’m remarried, I don’t want to give the illusion that all that pain and sadness disappeared. The truth is that time does heal, but the wounds will never go away. While grief isn’t always on the forefront of my mind, it is a part of who I am. I’m forever changed because of our loss. And certain dates and reminders are a jarring reminder of what we’ve lost. I’ve been mentally preparing myself for months for next week, and I’m still dreading it. 

The hard parts won’t last. These things become a part of who we are, and talking about them helps us to release the control they have over us. While it hurts at first, it helps us work through processing it all and eventually the pain will subside. 

Dustin and I are proactively going in a couple weeks too. Why not start our foundation off strong, especially considering the hard things we’ve encountered so far and now blending a family. Let’s normalize mental health and therapy. We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. Admitting you need help is a sign of strength, not weakness. 

#ichoosejoy #haveanamazingday #missyou #mentalhealthawareness #grief #griefjourney #remarriedwidow #ithurts #missyou #loveneverfades #youngwidow #griefrecovery #therapy #vulnerability #storytime #iloveyou
I never thought that I’d be so emotional about E I never thought that I’d be so emotional about Eloise, our youngest, going to school. She’s gone to part time school for the past couple of years, but we decided it would be better for her to be enrolled full time. Since we made the decision last month I’ve been all over the place! I mean, a full day with NO kids at home? Imagine all I could accomplish! Then I’d be immediately reminded of the fact that yes, I’d have no kids at home all day. A few months from now will mark 8 years as a stay at home mom. My whole existence for as long as I can remember has revolved around these little people under foot, and now they’re to the age where they are thriving more under the care of a teacher. I was so surprised at my emotions because as each child approached school age, it felt right and I embraced them at their stage of growth. (I’m not one of those “don’t grow up” people. Or am I now...). Now that they’re all in school, it’s just so weird. 
I am excited for a few hours a day to be truly productive instead of my attention always split with the demands of the kids. I’m excited to not wear all the hats at once for a minute, trying to maintain the house, teach the kids, work, help others.... And I know I will be more refreshed and engaged when they get home. But it’s still so hard!
Tell me I’m not the only one? 
So excuse me while I sob into my breakfast while also being so excited how clean my house is and how much I’ve accomplished before noon 😅

Photo by @lindseynicole_photo hair by @krystle__walker #alltheemotions #wedding #ighappy #emotional #happybutsad #growingpains #blendedfamily #blendedfamilylife #momlife #sisters #siblinglove #godanswersprayer #family #instagood #beautiful #happy #sad
A year filled with so much turmoil for most, and y A year filled with so much turmoil for most, and yet so much joy and excitement for us. So many unknowns and moments of fear and panic, and God delivered exactly what we needed at just the right time. Every time. It was such a gift to weather the storm that is 2020 with this incredible guy by my side. 
I love to reflect, especially at the end of the year. And this year was an adventure, to say the least! 

This year I:
Rang in the new year in Stowe with friends 
Took a trip to Cali
Trained for a marathon 
Met the governor 
Met a boy 
Got engaged
Sold two houses 
Moved across the country 
Organized a benefit race
Got married
Gained a daughter
Honeymooned in AZ & UT
Bought a home

We are excited to ring in the new year quietly with our family tonight. True to the rest of the year, we weren’t able to host the New Years party we were planning. But as always, it all works out the way it should. Early bedtime and more house organizing sounds just perfect ❤️

Just a reminder that God’s timing is greater than ours. 
He cares for us always. 
He knows the desires of our hearts. 

Hold on to those highs. Live and love intensely ✌🏼❤️

Here’s to a new year and more adventures ✨

Photo by @bekahlee33 
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Now that we are officially settled into our new ho Now that we are officially settled into our new house in Iowa, I am dreaming of all the ways we can refresh and upgrade it, and master closets are high on that list. This closet will forever serve as my inspiration! And also reminiscing of warmer weather where I can wear these summer shoes again 😔
Check out the full post of the final result on the blog (ahem... three years later...) link in my profile! http://liketk.it/34TQV photo by @bekahlee33  #liketkit @liketoknow.it #closet #closetroom #whitecloset #dreamcloset #inspo #shoe #shoewall #designer #gucci #toryburch #jeffreycampbell #ninewest #summer #summershoe #sandals #warmerweather #vacationmode #inspiration #customcloset #reveal
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