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May 12, 2022

Mothering When Life is Hard: Seen on Des Moines Mom

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Have you been there? Have you ever had days (or seasons, or even years…) when life just runs you over? And yet, you are still a mom. No matter what kind of day you have, there isn’t an option NOT to mom.

You don’t get a break. There’s no option to take the night off. The kids still need to be fed, groceries picked up, house cleaned, laundry done. You neglect any of these and you have some unhappy, naked, and hungry kids (maybe not unhappy about the naked part- I know of some who would love that!). 

If you know me, you know about my trying season since it was pretty public. I lost my husband of nine years when my kids were 5, 4, and 2 (more about that here and documented on my blog).

Hard was an understatement.

But I couldn’t not take care of my kids. In some ways, having them helped me continue on with life. But there were some specific things I did that helped me maintain my sanity even though my life had crumbled. There were moments when motherhood felt impossible. The kids were dealing with their grief and acting out and I simply did not have enough of myself to do it all. 

(excerpt from Des Moines Mom. See the full post here.

Did this post speak to you? Check out A Guide to Managing Grief, I Am Not a Victim, A Letter to my Children Who Are Grieving.

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Comments

  1. George Egbuonu says

    June 13, 2022 at 4:25 am

    Amazing post.

    Reply
  2. Yegg Inc says

    June 17, 2022 at 4:10 am

    Nice post.

    Reply

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I am Nicole Fergesen, mama to four, new Iowan and part time New Hampshire girl. I believe in Jesus, live on coffee, and love functional fashion. I also dabble in home design and relentlessly find beauty in everything. Wife to Dustin, widow of Marcus, blending a family and finding grace in the journey.
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