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Vulnerability

January 5, 2020

Vulnerability

A Letter to my Children

December 17, 2019

A Letter to my Children

November 18, 2019

Life as a Single Mom and Young Widow

November 4, 2019

Nothing is Wasted Feature

The Year of the Widow; Taking Back My Power

October 8, 2019

The Year of the Widow; Taking Back My Power

Never Alone – Be Still Ministries

September 26, 2019

Never Alone – Be Still Ministries

The Darkness is Good for us.

September 12, 2019

The Darkness is Good for us.

I Am Not A Victim – Unexpected Progress in Grieving

September 1, 2019

I Am Not A Victim – Unexpected Progress in Grieving

Caring for the Widow and Saying Thank You // Family Pictures 2019

August 9, 2019

Caring for the Widow and Saying Thank You // Family Pictures 2019

April 30, 2019

There is Healing in Telling the Story (Featured on Love What Matters)

Compelled to Breathe

March 22, 2019

Compelled to Breathe

One Month

February 15, 2019

One Month

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“How can you possibly love two men?” It’s a “How can you possibly love two men?”

It’s actually not as complicated as you’d think. You see, they are two completely different people. Our relationships are entirely unique and independent from each other. 

It’s like when you have children. When you have the first you can’t comprehend how you could possibly love another as much. And then you have another child, and you realize that it’s just a totally different love. You’d never choose one child over another. Your relationships are unique and special. 

The same with my late husband and my new husband. 

I didn’t choose for my relationship with Marcus to end. And I wouldn’t have met Dustin had I not lost him. 

I love Dustin with all of my heart. And yet, my love for Marcus hasn’t changed one bit. 

The love isn’t competitive. 
It’s deep, meaningful, and sacred. 

And I find myself just overwhelmed with thankfulness. God has been so good to me, and what a gift it is to love such wonderful men! 

If you’re in a similar position and curious how you could even consider loving someone new, there’s no harm in exploring. Our hearts are capable of so much, and we were created to love and be loved. 

And it’s a beautiful thing. ❤️

#loveafterloss #chapter2 #loveneverdies #youngwidow #lovestory #thankful #griefjourney #godisincontrol
I struggle enjoying the in between, the incomplete I struggle enjoying the in between, the incomplete phase while striving toward the goal. With patience. And with our house specifically, we bought it knowing it would need a ton of work. In the four months we’ve owned it we have made a HUGE dent in our project list, just not a lot “completed.” (And the kitchen remodel begins in just over two weeks!! 👏🏼). But good things take time, and I need to remind myself of that.
So here’s a list I created to help myself slow down and be patient with the process of making our house a home (bookmark to reference!):

•  Focus on one thing at a time. Little improvements. 
• Have an end goal in mind, but if budget or time doesn’t allow, try and complete a small area so it feels like something is being accomplished. 
• Try and reflect on what you HAVE done. While the project list seems endless, checking some things off the list will let you feel a sense of accomplishment. (ex., this room we’ve removed wallpaper, added texture, painted, removed curtains & blinds but still need new floors, art, nightstands, pillows & more). 
• More time developing a space means it will look more collected and special, rather than new and lacking character. Patience will pay off! 
• The longer we take, the more we know what we like and will work. And editing is part of that process!
• Don’t be afraid to buy the wrong thing. Design paralysis is a real thing! Buy it, try it, and if it doesn’t work, try something different. Relieve the pressure from yourself to make the perfect choice every time. Or, if you see something you like, grab measurements and “see” it in a space (see above! The painting I feel in love with is just slightly too large, but I needed a visual to confirm.)
• A house will never be truly done. It will develop over time, as needs change. So stop thinking you’ll reach a point of “done.” 

I hope this helps people who are in the same boat as me and eager to reach the finished product!
 http://liketk.it/3cTaM #LTKhome @liketoknow.it #home#progressoverperfection #onethingatatime #enjoythejourney #dreamhome #renovation #diy
ICYMI- I talked on Wednesday about an exciting new ICYMI- I talked on Wednesday about an exciting new addition to the blog- a monthly newsletter and GIVEAWAY! If you want exclusive updates (not spammy, promise!) then subscribe through the link in my profile. Maybe I’ll even share what I’m pondering about gazing across the water here 😂 I’m giving away two books to a new subscriber chosen at random, a copy of Streams in the Desert and my late husband’s book, Let the Socks Lead. Giveaway ends April 14.  http://liketk.it/3cpx2 photo by @bekahlee33  #liketkit @liketoknow.it #giveaway #subscribe #youngwidow #leadership #streamsinthedesert #ootd #spring #outfit #newsletter #midwest #midwestliving #midwestblogger #iowa #iowalife #lovemylife #dreambig #grief #homeblogger #fashionblogger #griefblogger #family #loveafterloss #alifeworthliving
So you’re pregnant! Congratulations! Pregnancy i So you’re pregnant! Congratulations! Pregnancy is magical and such a gift, but there are certain realities that come with growing a human inside you. Whether this is your first pregnancy or sixth, I have rounded up some of my pregnancy favorites, items that have gotten me through the first two trimesters comfortably! Most are non maternity (read: will last beyond pregnancy!) and won’t break the bank. Bookmark this post, then go to the blog (link in profile) to see the whole list and why I chose each item! 

Also, this target dress 👌🏼 http://liketk.it/3cnBX #liketkit @liketoknow.it #LTKbump #LTKunder50 #LTKwedding #maternity #pregnancyfavorites #bump #bumpstyle #target #targetstyle #spring #springdress #pregnancybasics #firsttrimester #secondtrimester #pregnancy #bumpdate
Swipe for the before ➡️ We bought our home at Swipe for the before ➡️ We bought our home at the beginning of December and got right to work renovating the space! We started with simple but big impact projects like painting the hearth room and eat in kitchen area and removing allllll the tan (see my stories for a laugh!). We have a long way to go, but this was a fantastic start and brightened up the whole space! My wrists still haven’t recovered from all the painting I’ve done already 🤣
Color: Alabaster by @sherwinwilliams 
Photo: @alvarengaart 
Sources: http://liketk.it/3ckww #liketkit @liketoknow.it #home #homerenovation #reno #dreamhome #paint #targethome #target #alabaster #white #whitepaint #springprojects #sherwinwilliams #bestwhitepaint #bestwhite #mostpopularwhite #beforeandafter #dreamhome
1. My due date is four months from today 😱 And 1. My due date is four months from today 😱 And today I experienced my first mention of my pregnancy from a stranger 😆 This pregnancy is FLYING by! 
2. This Easter was the first in my life I’ve gotten a tan. Thanks, Iowa! 
3. I only just discovered I have seasonal allergies. Maybe they are a new thing for me, or I’ve never noticed. Dustin pointed it out and let me tell you, I’m not a big medicine person but allergy meds are AMAZING. 
4. The exterior siding of our home is getting painted this week! Check out my stories for some insanely beautiful progress 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
5. How many loads of laundry do you do a week on average? I think I am at about 12 😱 #familyofsix
That’s all my random thoughts for today 🤣
I linked my favorite pullover!  http://liketk.it/3ceiv #liketkit @liketoknow.it #random #laundry #allergyseason #pregnancy #bumpdate #tan #randommusings #adayinthelife #homerenovation #progress @abercrombie #smile #spring #momlife #happylife #iowalife
He is risen 🙌🏼 http://liketk.it/3c506 @dfe He is risen 🙌🏼 

http://liketk.it/3c506 @dfergesen #heisrisen #eastersunday #family #blendedfamily #chaptertwo
SMILE. Can you name three things that make you hap SMILE. Can you name three things that make you happy? We have so much to be grateful for. I’ll go first in the comments 👇🏼 

http://liketk.it/3bM0d photo by @rachelwhitephoto #thisisthegoodlife #dreambig #lifeisanadventure #liketkit @liketoknow.it  #outdoor #getoutside #kids #family #smile #happy #grateful
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